On lavender farms and creating good habits…

I returned from  my recent trip to Salt Lake City, where I got to spend some time on a beautiful lavender farm!  (You can find some of the pure lavender from these fields available here:

I spent several hours in airports and on planes, and I was able to spend some quiet time reading and thinking and considering the topic of habits!  Good or bad – we all have habits.

Are  you conscious of the habits in your life?  Are there bad habits you’d like to replace?

What habits are you glad you have?   What habits do you find beneficial, even it not overly enjoyable?  I’d love for you to comment or reply to this post to let me know!
We all have different personalities and tendencies.  I think most people would acknowledge the benefits of good habits in our lives, but yet why do some of us easily adopt good habits, while others struggle to implement change, even if the outcome is something we desire?

Why do some people love New Year’s resolutions, and others get horrified at the thought of making life-alternating changes based solely on the date of their calendar?   (Personally, I am not a fan of New Year’s resolutions.  If I’m going to make a change, Monday or the start of a new month is just as good of a start date for me as any other day.  In fact, I purposefully do not make resolutions on the 1st of the year, as it is so common to joke about how quickly those resolutions fail, and if I’m going to implement a change I want it to last!)

The mind is an amazing thing, isn’t it?  🙂   Some of us have to almost trick ourselves into creating a good habit, while others must spell out all the details and the consequences we would face if a habit is not implemented.

Lavender fields; Mona, Utah

Gretchen Rubin writes about habits in her book, Better than Before:  Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives.  I found this book very interesting, as she goes through different personalities that people have and how this affects the way they do (or do not) handle habits in their lives.

She says there are four types of people:  Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels.

Upholders have a personal obligation to meet their expectations for themselves; they have a strong instinct for self-preservation, and this helps protect them from their tendency to meet others’ expectations. They find it easy to cultivate habits.

Questioners are motivated by reason, logic, and fairness. They wake up thinking, “What needs to be done today and why?”  (I fall most often into this category!)

Obligers are motivated by external accountability; they wake up and think, “What must I do today?”  They struggle to be self-motivated and depend on outside sources for accountability, with consequences such as deadlines, late fees, or the fear of letting other people down helping them to maintain their habits; however, they often keep good habits.
Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They choose to act from a sense of freedom, doing what seems best to them at the time. They wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?” They work towards their own goals. Their best asset is their voice of dissent, which can be valuable for protection.

For more details, I’d recommend you read her book (get it here), although I would put a caveat that I do not endorse everything she says, especially health-related comments (she’s a big diet coke fan!).

With just a basic overview above, how would you classify yourself?  Do you find it easy to create and keep habits in your life?  What tips have you learned and implemented that have helped improve the habits in your life?  I’d love to hear from you!


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